It’s that time of year again: Back to School shopping. Samantha starts First Grade next week, and decided to grow like a weed over the past few months. I’m not sure what we were feeding her, but I would sure like to figure it out so we can stop doing that.
Clothes shopping is a pain for me, as I hate trying on new clothes and then subsequently feeling poorly about myself. Clothes shopping is a different kind of pain when it comes to Samantha. She has an issue with certain types of materials touching her skin. They make her itchy. Like sequins on shirts. The inside has the stitches to hold the sequins on, but it also has the material over the stitches that is supposed to help with the itching, but really doesn’t. It sucks because she loves shiny and sparkly, but we move on with some kicks and screams.
The other issue is the types of clothing made available for purchase. Skinny jeans are one thing, as you can buy them a size bigger and they wont be so tight. However, now they make super skinny jeans. For girls as young as mine, and younger. Also low-cut shirts, mini skirts, midriff baring tops, and tennis shoes with wedges inside them (just to name a few). When did our little girls become young women in the eyes of corporations? OR, when did they become young women in the eyes of society?
When I was a kid (yes, I went there. I also went there up hill and through the snow…one way), we didn’t have these kinds of clothes. Sure, in the 80’s we had bright, obnoxious neon colors, with high tops, and scrunchie socks. However, I do not recall ever seeing inappropriate clothing for my age, or clothes that read “Too pretty to study,” or some other nonsensical crap.
Why do we want our children to grow up so fast? When did it become OK for young girls to wear shorts so short their butt cheeks hang out, or tops so low they would show cleavage if they had any to show? I don’t want my kid to dress or look any older than she already is, but it’s so hard to find decent clothes out there for her age and size. I miss the cute dresses with butterflies and ladybugs. Now the clothes have stupid saying that make girls think it’s OK to be viewed as “dumb,” or clothes too short and make them think sexy is a good thing (Not for their age!).
I want my girls to know that smart is sexy AND cool. That their looks should not define them, and that it is never OK to be objectified. I want them to know that they are worth the same as any man, and should be treated the same, no matter what. I want them to know that they CAN do anything they set their mind to, and that they should never let anyone tell them they can’t just because they are women.
I want them to know all these things…in time.
Right now, can they just be little girls? Can they continue playing with My Little Ponies or dolls, and jam to Kidz Bop? Maybe letting them be kids is the best thing for them, instead of pushing the world and all its problems on their shoulders. They wont be little forever, so let’s try to keep them that way for as long as possible.